Suggestions for New College Students and Their Parents
· Both need to assume the Best but also be Prepared
Put on a strong front for your son or daughter. Ok to share sad they are leaving but also proud of them and confident for their new journey in life. Appear confident in their abilities
See it as a new step not a death of your role. They still will need you just in a different way. There for them but not smothering.
Use technology like Skype, Facetime, text, and email but not excessively. Same goes for your son/daughter.
Share what helped you or someone else’s child when he or she went off to college
Realize it may be a grieving processes or lonely at first and that this is normal. But usually doesn’t last as intensely. Imagine it going well. Tell yourself “It will be great. Exciting. I can do this”.
Don’t hide out in your room. Meet people on your floor and your Resident Assistant (RA).
Join groups that correspond with your interests or identity. Get to know the campus and community.
It’s ok to contact parents but keep it in check.
Reach out to free mental health services on campus if need be.
Courtesy: Dr. Matthew Clark, The Clark Institute
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